Equipping the church to resist domestic abuse and coercive control
Small Group Study Videos
A sensitive, important study guide for use by church small groups
On this page:
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- About the book ‘The Bible Doesn’t Tell Me So’
- Purchase the book
- About the video course ‘The Bible Doesn’t Tell Us So’
- A glimpse into the course
- How to run the study group
- Obtain access to the videos
Created to work alongside Rev. Dr Helen Paynter’s book: ‘The Bible Doesn’t Tell Me So: Why you don’t have to submit to domestic abuse and coercive control’, these study videos aim to help small groups to become informed about, and respond to, domestic violence. If you are a leader, please email the Administrator to preview the full content.
About the book:
Domestic abuse is as common with church families as in the general population, but sadly additional factors may come into play when the abuse is taking place within a Christian home. In particular, certain portions of the Bible are often taken out of context by abusers to force their partners to put up with abuse. Sometimes churches, too, can be unhelpful, offering theological responses which are neither pastorally sensitive nor in line with a careful reading of the Bible’s teaching.
In her acclaimed book “The Bible Doesn’t Tell Me So: Why you don’t have to submit to domestic abuse and coercive control”, Baptist minister and biblical scholar Helen Paynter tackles these questions head-on, in an accessible work aimed primarily at those experiencing abuse.
Responses to the book:
About the videos:
These study videos The Bible Doesn’t Tell Us So: Equipping the church to resist domestic abuse and coercive control offer a six-week course aimed at church small groups, to enable them to engage with the material in an interactive way.
Video format. The series is hosted by the book’s author Helen Paynter. Each video contains enough material for one small group meeting. After a short introduction to set the scene, there are two blocks of input, with contributions from invited guests, and witness testimonies. After each input block, plenty of time is allowed for the group to talk and pray together. The video finishes with some short concluding remarks.
A short study guide is available to support the videos, but it is intended that they will be used alongside the published book.
The study takes place over six sessions:
Session 1: Introduction. Provides an overview of domestic abuse: its presentation and prevalence in society and churches.
With guest Bekah Legg, director of Restored, an organisation which seeks to equip the UK and international church to resist and respond to domestic abuse.
Session 2: The Ideal Wife? Digging into what the Bible does and doesn’t teach about marital roles.
With guest Rev. David Batchelor, minister of South Street Free Church, Eastbourne.
Session 3: Trapped By God? What does and doesn’t the Bible say about divorce in the case of abuse?
With guest Rev. Dr David Instone Brewer, author of “Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible“.
Session 4: Jesus Raging and Suffering. Looking at how the Bible in general, and Jesus in particular, views the suffering and the oppressed.
Session 5: Out of the Shadows. How can we cultivate an atmosphere in our churches that makes it easy for victims of abuse to disclose, and to believe that they will be taken seriously?
With barrister (legal advocate) Anna Vigars KC.
Session 6: Next Steps. How can we move forwards to make our churches safer for people who experience domestic abuse?
With Rev. Brendan Bassett, previously minister of Victoria Park Baptist Church, Bristol.
A glimpse into the course
How to run the study group
We recommend that the course is run over a series of six meetings, held weekly or every two weeks. Ideally, group members will have a copy of the book and will read the relevant section either before or after the relevant session, although the videos and accompanying study notes can be used alone if necessary. The course requires no specialist facilitation, but the group leader and members will need to be aware of the sensitivity of the subject matter, and the effect that this might have on group members. The study guide contains suggestions of organisations that may be able to offer support.
The videos and book come out of a UK setting, but we aim that they will be accessible and useful to church groups in any English-speaking setting.
The videos were made with the generous support of the MB Reckitt Trust.
Whilst we make these videos freely available, we request a donation of £3 per course participant*, on an honesty basis, using the donation link below (select ‘custom’ and input the amount). Once this has been done, please submit your details using the contact form to receive the password and access the content (check your junk mail if it doesn’t appear within a couple of minutes!). If you are a leader, you are welcome to email the Administrator to preview the full content.
*If this amount presents genuine difficulties for anyone, please get in touch to discuss your church’s requirements.